Is It Normal to Feel Disconnected in Marriage?

When Love Feels Distant 

All couples go through seasons where closeness feels harder to find. Maybe you’re living together but feel like roommates, or conversations have become surface-level. If you’ve been asking yourself, “Is it normal to feel disconnected in my marriage?” — the answer is yes, it’s common, and it doesn’t mean your relationship is beyond repair. At Soma Counseling and Wellness in Peachtree City, we help couples understand these disconnects and find their way back to each other.

Why Emotional Distance Happens

Disconnection in marriage can happen for many reasons, including:

• Stress and busy schedules — work, parenting, and daily demands leave little time for connection.

• Unresolved conflict — arguments left open create distance.

• Life transitions — new jobs, kids, or health changes can shift priorities.

• Unmet needs — emotional or physical needs may go unspoken.

Clues That You are Drifting Apart

It may feel like:

• Conversations stay surface-level or mostly logistical.

• Physical intimacy decreases.

• You spend more time on phones, TV, or work than with each other.

• You feel lonely, even while together.

These are signals, not failures — they show where healing can begin.

Is It Normal to Feel This Way?

Yes. Even strong, healthy couples experience times of emotional distance. What matters most is whether you recognize it and take steps to reconnect.

How Therapy Brings Couples Back Together

In couples counseling, we guide partners to:

• Improve communication with practical tools (like Gottman Method check-ins).

• Understand underlying needs beneath conflict or silence.

• Rebuild trust after hurts or betrayals.

• Practice somatic tools to regulate the nervous system during difficult conversations.

Everyday Ways to Reconnect at Home

• Set aside daily check-in time without distractions.

• Try a shared activity you both enjoy (walks, cooking, projects).

• Use “I feel” statements instead of blaming language.

• Show appreciation daily, even in small ways.

Frequently Asked Questions About Feeling

Disconnected in Marriage

How do I know if my marriage is in trouble?

Feeling disconnected doesn’t always mean your marriage is in crisis. But if disconnection is paired with constant conflict, loss of respect, or a lack of willingness to work on the relationship, it may be time to seek professional support.

What if only one partner wants counseling?

It’s very common for one partner to be more open to therapy than the other. Even if only one of you attends, counseling can still bring positive changes to the relationship. Often, the other partner chooses to join later once they see the benefits.

Is disconnection in marriage normal after kids?

Yes. Life transitions, including becoming parents, often create emotional distance. The key is noticing the change and intentionally making time to reconnect with each other as partners, not just co-parents.

Can couples therapy really help us feel close again?

Yes. Couples counseling provides a safe space to talk openly, improve, communication, and work through challenges together. Many couples are surprised at how quickly they begin to feel more hopeful and supported.

How soon will we see progress in therapy?

Every couple is different, but many begin to feel more connected within a few sessions. The most important factor is showing up with openness and commitment to the process.

Take the Next Step Toward Reconnection

Feeling disconnected in marriage is normal — but staying disconnected doesn’t have to be. With support, you and your partner can rebuild closeness and strengthen your bond.

At Soma Counseling and Wellness in Peachtree City, we offer couples therapy rooted in research, holistic tools, and practical strategies.

Ready to feel connected again? Schedule a consultation today.